Some of this is a rehash, but all of it leads to this: “Senators Are Scrutinizing A Trump Nominee After His Transgender Daughter Accused Him Of Using Slurs.”
In the spring of 2017, my relationship with my family was highly strained after coming out to them as transgender in 2015, but I decided to lay down the gauntlet by sending them my blog post, “To Whom It May Concern.” In that post, I laid out where I stood on the 45th president and how I needed to know if they would support me or if they would not. A follow-up post chronicled their responses. With the aftermath of that fatefully sent post, relations with my family strained further. And, it was during this strain that I was told of my father’s new position, one nominated by the 45th president.
From my father’s response to the sent post, I’d known he hadn’t bothered to read what I’d written, about the democracy destroying individual corrupting the presidential office and everything the administration touches. Yet, upon hearing the news, I’d thought there was nothing I could do. Another anti-LGBT+ official in a sea of many.
I was wrong.
While I did not speak much to my father over the course of the spring or summer, seeing him only once during my sister’s high school graduation and would have seen him another time had I not been uninvited to my brother’s collegial graduation, I did receive a text from him in October, which included the presidential press release about his nomination going forward to the senate for confirmation.
I’d been wrong.
There was something I could do.
I’d thought that the position was a done deal. I had not realized that this was a senate confirmed position. After spending months watching nearly every swampy and anti-LGBTQ+ nominee confirmed by the senate, regardless of the outcry, I had had enough.
I wrote to my senator and to various LGBTQ+ organizations.
And after making a few connections, I did an interview with an Oklahoma LGBTQ+ news outlet called, The Gayly.
After “Child of Trump nominee speaks out” was released, familial relations continue to be strained as I was told that I am “wrong” and “mean” and “cruel” for speaking out against my father.
Perhaps, my favorite thing I was told was “He dosent think those things u said. He was just reacting in the heat of the moment. This isn’t easy.”
I opted to avoid Oklahoma for the holidays.
It was a good decision.
I heard nothing about when the confirmation hearing would be, nor did I seek out information from my family. But, I did browse the Web, attempting to find the information on my own.
It was an attempt that would lead nowhere.
Yet as the spring neared, I was contacted by the National Center for Transgender Equality, one of the organizations I had reached out to in October, about my father’s upcoming confirmation hearing. They wanted to know if I was interested in being contacted by a reporter.
I told the reporter my story.
And, when he reached out to my brother to confirm it, my brother denied the events that happened.
And, so, the story with Buzzfeed was shelved.
Except, that it wasn’t.
As part of the confirmation process, my father would not only have to respond to the Gayly article but would also have to respond to the retweets from his Twitter account which had such gems as sports franchises having “lost their moral compass” by their support of trans rights and allowing trans people in the military was “immoral garbage.”
In regards to his Twitter account, he was only trying “to elicit conversation.”
But, with the Gayly article question, asked by Sen. Feinstein, he denied the things he said.
He lied to congress.
Another Trump nominee lied to congress.
And so, with the questions asked and his responses given, the article was published.
Where things go from here, I can’t say, but I am certainly doing more than just trying “to elicit conversation.”
You don’t have to agree with what I have done.
You don’t have to like it.
But, people deserve to know the views of who represents them in government.
And, if you don’t like it, well, I guess I’ll just say this. If you agree that trans people are corrupt and freaks, well, then, I guess I just don’t support your type of lifestyle.
Side note: Well I appreciate the exposure, I was totally surprised a version of the Buzzfeed article running on The Advocate, considering I had never spoken to anyone from there. Also, they used an old Facebook profile picture for the article . . . Fascinating.
“To Whom It May Concern”
“Three out of Four Reactions”
“Child of Trump nominee speaks out”
“Senators Are Scrutinizing A Trump Nominee After His Transgender Daughter Accused Him Of Using Slurs”
“U.S. Marshals Nominee Accused of Transphobia–By His Trans Daughter”